If you can expect the best about everyone, that is what they will show you. You get what you expect. So if you see people as good, that is what you will see in your reality. If you see people as broken, damaged or evil, that is what you'll get. Realign your expectations to get what you want. You get what you expect, and your expectations come from your beliefs. A belief is just a thought you think a lot. So if you can get to the root of your beliefs by choosing new thoughts, you can change your expectations, and thus, what you perceive in your reality.
1. I Am
Remember that you ARE your reality. Everything you see, is you. All other people are you. We are all one. We are one consciousness, expressing itself through different perspectives. Think of humanity as one organism. What you dislike in other people, you dislike in yourself. You know that phrase, "It takes one to know one"? It's like that. What you can see in others is something already in you. So celebrate the victories you see in other people, because they are yours too. And let this help you catch yourself when throwing insults. It takes one to know one!
If you notice something you don't like about someone, remember I AM. Breathing in "I", Breathing out "AM". This will help you remember our oneness and that you can't get away from yourself, so you might as well make peace with it.
SUGGESTED MEDITATION You Are This Present Moment
2. Everyone is creative, resourceful and whole
Jessica's former life coach Cory Thomsen taught her that when you're worried about someone else, remind yourself that everyone is creative, resourceful and whole. Everybody has the ability to solve their own problems. No one is helpless. Every human has the ability to be resourceful. And no one is incomplete. Every person on this planet is whole. Every person is connected to god. Every person is an outpicturing of god itself. There is never any need to worry about anyone else. Every single person can come up with their own solutions. Every person can find a way to get the resources they need. Every person can remember they are a whole image of god.
SUGGESTED EXERCISE Success of Another from the Monthly Manifestation Manual
3. Love is the root
Love is the only thing that is real. This is a concept from A Course In Miracles. If love is the only thing that is real, anything negative or evil in appearance is just an illusion.
The feeling of love is god. It is the feeling of no resistance. It is the feeling of no conditions. It is the feeling of freedom, exhilaration and lust for life. If you feel anything but love for someone, you've let your own fears and judgements get in the way. You're not looking at that person as god would, which means you've created a separation between you and your true self. Mend this chasm not for the sake of the object of your attention, but for you. Don't let anything (or anyone) be your reason for feeling bad.
SUGGESTED MEDITATION Teach Only Love
4. Hurt people hurt
However someone acts is a reflection of their inner world. So if someone is being critical of you, they are deeply critical of themselves inside. If someone is talking shit about someone else, it means they're insecure. If they are hurting someone, it means they are hurting inside. Think of everyone you see as a child, deserving of love. Even when children misbehave, we still love them unconditionally. Give that same courtesy to adults. Every adult that misbehaves is just a hurt child inside, trying to protect themselves or make themselves hurt less.
5. Look for what you want to see
You get to decide what traits you look for in people. Does this person have a pattern of acting this way, or do you have a pattern of looking for and expecting that behavior? Take responsibility for the version of someone that you're creating in your head. Are you looking for their best traits or their worst? Are you expecting the best or are you dreading what you don't want? Just like everything else in life, the version of a person that you create is up to you, not them. What you see in them has only to do with your narrative and nothing to do with "who they really are." Who they "really are" is god, just like you. Look for evidence of that, and you will see it.
SUGGESTED EXERCISE Positive Aspects from the Monthly Manifestation Manual
6. Give it to get it
As Abraham-Hicks always says, "I love you, not because you are lovable, but because I am one who loves."
Everything in life is made up of energy and the physical reality that you see, smell, touch, taste and hear is merely a printout of your energetic state (vibration). As Abraham explains in their seminars, it is universal law that physical reality must and always does respond to that vibrational state. It. Is. Law. If you're vibrating on the frequency of love, the universe must respond in kind. The same is true for hate, fear, anxiety, etc.
If you want people to act lovingly to you, you have to love them first. You have to treat your neighbor as you want to be treated. Not because you will be judged or smited if you don't, but because to get it, you have to give it. Remember, the world is just a reflection of you. So if you act with love towards others, they will eventually act with love towards you. Because you are projecting love, you will get love back.
Not only that, but you get the benefit of projecting love and feeling love fill you up. Then, you're already in a loving place and the actions of others don't seem to matter as much because you get to choose the feeling of love either way.
SUGGESTED MEDITATION Become It To See It
Ultimately the purpose of seeing the best in people is a selfish act, because you're doing it so that you get to experience a more loving reality. It is in your best interest to see the best in people. When you look for the best in people, it trains you to see the best in life. You see the best in yourself. It gets you in a pattern of looking for the best. Your reality becomes the best version of itself. Life is more fun, just because you decided to look with love instead of fear or hate.