I Love Mondays #4: Forgive, Let Go, and Die

Due to legal and health issues at SoLD HQ, I've had a rough week! One day I'll write about it but for now, just know that I felt scared, threatened, sick, depressed and hopeless. Luckily the universe is always on my side and came through with three angels to help me through the stress. A big thanks to Gala Darling, Ram Dass and Lil Peep for their bravery, wisdom and generosity. I'm back to my powerful witch self! If you're human and facing challenges yourself, read on for four tools to transmute the pain into power. You got this!

Physical

1. Tap!
Gala Darling had a Cyber Monday sale on her products, and we took the opportunity to snag her Radical Rituals: Abundance program. Each day for two weeks, we receive an email from Gala with lessons and videos. One of the tools she recommends is EFT, or tapping.

Kelly and I tapped along with her video and it was pretty moving. So I started tapping in the mornings to deal with whatever “problem” I was having, and I’ve experienced some major breakthroughs!

Tapping helps me focus on self love and forgiveness without much risk of my mind wandering. The tapping action moves blocked energy through the body, but it also provides a focal point to rest the attention on. If you’re going through the tapping rounds, it’s pretty likely you’ll stay focused on the task at hand, rather than getting lost in thought. It’s a way to deliberately focus and work through energetic blockages.

The way tapping works is you identify your problem: “I feel like a failure.” Then you tap the various points on your body, repeating, “Even though I feel like a failure, I still totally and completely love and accept and forgive myself.” You can be flexible in what you say—“Even though I feel like a failure and it makes me so depressed, I still totally and completely love and accept and forgive myself. Even though I feel like I need to be punished for my failures, I still totally and completely love and accept and forgive myself.”

After the rounds of tapping, say to yourself, “I’m ready to let this go.” Take some deep breaths and drink plenty of water, and congratulate yourself for dealing with your problems head on! It takes a lot of courage to peel back the layers of the onion of manifestation. At first, you are loving and accepting and forgiving yourself for manifesting some shit you don’t like. But after several rounds of tapping, you get to the root cause of the manifestation. It helps you see the patterns in your thinking that cause a lifetime of pain. And then you can let them go!

Even though you are human and make mistakes, you totally and completely love and accept and forgive yourself. Now what is it you are willing to let go?

Mental

2. Get some perspective on your problems.

"Imagine a mountain of solid rock six miles long, six miles wide, and six miles high. Once every hundred years a crow flies by with a silk scarf in its beak, just barely caressing the top of the mountain with it. The length of time it would take to wear away that mountain is how Buddha described the journey to enlightenment. That’s the game of incarnations. In the vastness of time any one incarnation is like the blink of an eye in relation to a seventy-year life span. Every time you blink, that’s like another incarnation. Every thought form is like a lifetime. A realized being is so completely in the present moment that every time a thought appears, there is creation, preservation, and destruction of the entire universe." -- Ram Dass

After reading this quote in Be Love Now by Ram Dass, we started deeming all of life's problems "but a scarf in the wind"--likening them to the always entertaining "fart in the wind" idiom coined by Warden Norton in Shawshank Redemption when describing how Andy escaped. Your life is but one pixel in an infinite matrix—a tiny insignificant speck that vanishes as quickly and mysteriously as it appears. Compare your problems to infinity and realize they aren't so large. Imagine your lifespan as compared to what always was and what always will be and realize that this life is but a blink in the eye of your soul.

Emotional

3. Forgive.

"Your self love is a medicine for the earth." -- Yung Pueblo

It being the giving season, we considered writing this edition of I Love Mondays in the form of a metaphysical gift giving guide. When pondering what vibrational gifts we would offer our loved ones, we realized that anything we perceived as vibrationally lacking in others would merely be a projection of our own shadows. The most meaningful metaphysical gift anyone could give another—and the world at large—is her own vibrational alignment. From a place of alignment, not only are you able to inspire others through your example, but you are contributing to a collective consciousness of love, peace and acceptance.

The concept didn't translate into an entire post because we could only come up with one vibrational gift that really mattered: forgiveness.

What would you consider the hurdles to your own vibrational alignment? Grudges against your parents, past lovers or other people who have hurt you? Anger at or resentment for your employer or the government? Questioning your own self worth? Anger at yourself for past mistakes? Fearing your won't be able to make ends meet?

Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive. Forgive.

Give yourself the gift of forgiveness. Don't even tell them you're doing it. You're not doing it for them, you're doing it for you. Because you care about how you feel. Because the only thing that matters is how you feel.

Spiritual

4. Glorify death.

On November 15, 2017, the American rapper and singer Lil Peep was found dead in his tour bus. I saw tweets about it and naturally had to look up his music. I fell face first into my favorite music ever, made much more poignant by the dude's death that day.

It’s the only music I’ve listened to for over two weeks, and I’m still processing why it hit me so hard. His lyrics are about suicide and depression and drugs, and it brought up all these feelings I hadn’t felt since high school. So much “FUCK THE WORLD” and “FUCK MY LIFE” and hopelessness. But the beauty is that he took all those horrible feelings and transmuted them into exquisite music.

It got us wondering--why does the untimely departure of this artist make the music more intriguing? Is listening to his music now, after his death, contributing to a capitalization on his pain? Is suggesting his music to others glorifying Peep's death?

But what's so wrong with that? Why, in the West, is death treated with such fear and disdain? In many cultures, death is celebrated. It is a re-connection with the pure energy from which we came. It represents a freedom from the trappings of the ego--from the belief that we are separate from Source.

Have you ever thought about what it would feel like to be dead? Ponder it now. Feel the emotions. It feels like relaxation. It feels like relief! There are no worries. There's no need to fulfill any expectations. There's no doing anything you don't want to do. It's just you, the purest version of you. Your soul. When you practice what it would feel like to be dead, you kill your ego. You die right now. Celebrate that death! Glorify it! When you practice what it feels like to be dead, then you will be able to truly enjoy life.

How would you live your life if you weren't afraid to die?